general exchange letter

[cheju]

hello!! thank you so much for creating for me :)
 
SFW likes:

• enemies to lovers — hero/villain, rivals, etc. i love this in any way, from a lightly teasing, banter-y frenemies dynamic to a mortal enemies, i-will-kill-you-or-die-trying thing, and anywhere in between
• imbalanced power dynamics — captor/captive, older/younger, nobleman/peasant for some straightforward ones, but i also love it when there’s more than meets the eye: role reversals, emotional dynamics that are mismatched or opposite to the outward power dynamic, the less-powerful character finding ways to exploit the one in power, etc… basically, the more social, emotional, and situational factors that add spice, the merrier! 
• complex, messy relationships in general! give me all the fraught past history, the flip-flopping feelings, the power plays, the reluctant attraction, the dysfunction, the manipulation, the mind games, the possessiveness, the obsessiveness, the betrayal, the forgiveness, the unfounded fear and unexpected mercy. yum!
• mutual respect, competence kink — while i love when characters get to hate each other, i also love when they strongly respect one another despite that! i also like when they can hold their own against one another — ie if there’s an imbalanced power dynamic, it’s more because of the situation (someone is injured, held captive) or a social dynamic (boss, professor) rather than an imbalance of skill, strength, intelligence, etc
• “forced proximity” tropes — one bed, trapped together, snowed in, assigned on a case together, accidental magical binding, arranged marriage, etc
• UST-heavy scenarios — situations where characters can’t (or won’t) resolve what is obviously blazing hot sexual tension. because it’s socially improper, because they (supposedly) hate each other, because they’re undercover, because they’re on an important mission that they can’t compromise, because they're just that repressed, etc
• pining — on that note, also yes to straight-up pining, especially mutual pining. “they’d never look at me twice if it wasn’t for this arranged marriage,” “i can’t risk disrupting this fraught peace we’ve finally established,” all that good stuff
• identity porn — undercover, secret identities, etc
• banter, snark, fighting-as-flirting
• sex/relationship chicken — pride, competitiveness, an “i won’t back down first!” mentality leading to escalating intimacy
• morally gray characters who are allowed to stay that way

my ship dynamics tag over on my tumblr also has some examples of dynamics i enjoy!

 

NSFW likes:

• dubcon of all kinds — from milder forms like sex pollen, to imbalanced power dynamics where consent can’t be freely given (ie captor/captive), to coercion or blackmail or manipulation, to mutual consent issues, to situations where consent isn’t discussed at all (ie fights that end in fucking), even up to situations that may need to be tagged for noncon — all good to me!
• humiliation, dirty talk, degradation — this is like, THE kink for me. i can be into basically anything that is used for the purposes of humiliating someone. especially love it when characters are reluctantly into something and feel ashamed about it; when they’re forced to admit just how into it they are — or better yet, to beg for it >:)
• fighting-to-fucking, hate sex, rough sex — struggling for power, dominance, etc
• manhandling, physical control and resistance, restraints — needing to be threatened (gunplay/knifeplay is also a yes) or restrained in order to submit
• emotional sex — whether that emotion is intense need, love, desperation, anger, hate, frustration
• sex pollen — and how that might affect someone's emotions!
• under/un-negotiated kink — in general i think it’s fun when it’s in the heat of the moment. take something like bondage — BIG yes to tying someone up with a belt, gagging them with their clothes, etc, versus characters buying a shibari kit, for example. 
• outwardly non-sexual dominance and control — stuff like making a character shine boots, corporal punishment, handcuffing someone as part of an arrest… and the character is kinda into it. (and, god, they’re so weird for that, right?! but, wait, is the character punishing them also into it too..?)
• “frog boiling” — the slow burn pushing of boundaries, manipulation, gaslighting, escalation into increasingly kinky but plausibly deniable scenarios that a character only realizes late in the game… yum
• size difference — big top/small bottom. what can i say, i'm a simple man! 
• orgasm control — chastity devices, cock cages, orgasm delay/denial
• breeding kink — and kinking on pregnancy, including mpreg
• mild feminization — yes to changing hair/clothes/makeup, bodily changes resulting from pregnancy, occasional kinky use of gendered words like "girl" or "wife", but no to any surgical or hormonal changes, permanently switching to she/her pronouns, or permanently referring to the character as a woman. (also, i’m explicitly ok with feminization kink for trans male characters too 🫣)
• watersports in all its forms :)

opt-ins: 

these are common DNWs i’m explicitly OK with!

• omegaverse (and i’m okay with omegas having any genitalia or combination thereof!), D/S AUs
• unconventional formats — 1st or 2nd person POV, epistolary, etc
• fantastical or historical AUs
• unrealistic sex — come inflation, way-too-big insertions, xeno/monsterfucking, hentai logic, inadvisable things as lube, etc

on the fence:

these aren't hard limits by any means, but they're aspects of stories i don’t usually find myself gravitating to

• fluff, established relationships, soulmate AUs — complex “established” relationships, though, like an enemies-with-benefits thing, or arranged marriages with mutual pining? that’s cool with me!
• mundane AUs — no superpowers for characters that usually have them, no magic for a world that usually has it, coffeeshop AUs, etc.
• childbirth, kidfic — to be clear i LOVE breeding kink and kinking on pregnancy. i’m also chill with non-kinky pregnancy lol, and with kids being present in fic. i just don’t tend to gravitate to fic where the *main focus* is birthing/raising kids
• heavily negotiated kink — e.g. traffic light system, CNC, high-protocol BDSM

DNWs:

• underage, ageplay, daddy/mommy kink — prefer 18+. for high school scenarios and canons with underage characters, i’d prefer if age is not specified, but if it is, please have them 16+!
• scat, vomit
• body horror, gore — i’m ok with stabbing, broken bones, gunshot wounds, and the like, but DNW amputation, eye trauma, flaying, etc
• main character death
• unrequested gender/sexuality changes, including genderbends and ace/aro headcanons. however, for original work, i am ok with the ‘bottoming’ character being a trans man :)
• violent and traumatic noncon where one party never feels desire or reciprocates at all (though dubcon is extremely welcome & it’s ok if something starts out or ends as noncon!)